Let me back up.
I was having breakfast with a dear friend this morning who has known me a long, long time. She knows all about this blog and about all of you, of course.
We were talking about our lives, relationships, careers and the future. And suddenly, I just said out loud what I’ve been thinking for months…maybe even years.
“I think I’m supposed to do something with the breakups,” I said.
She raised an eyebrow.
“You know, like with the heartbroken. I keep wanting to push it away, because it’s dark work. It’s not fun, it gets to me, their pain becomes my pain. I want to push it away. And I feel like I’ve said, you know, everything I could possibly say on the blog…regarding breakups.”
I paused. “But my gut feeling keeps telling me there’s something more, something I haven’t said, because they keep coming. They find my email address or a post I’m still answering comments on and they ask me what to do. Or girls at work hear I’m the ‘breakup whisperer’ and come to me. Friends have sent their friends the blog. So I feel like I’m supposed to be working with this still. Like, you know, maybe writing an eBook that I wouldn’t charge very much for, or something like that. Something more in depth that could help them, beyond just short blog posts.”
This friend, who knows me very well, said, “You know I’ve been reading back through your blog recently. And I meant to tell you about a month ago that you really need to keep writing. There’s really something there. I think you should do something with it.”
It was the ding I needed to make me finally willing to pull the trigger.
So I guess what I’m asking you guys, is this:
- If I wrote an eBook that was pretty lengthy, about breakups and how to heal from them, would you read it?
- Would you be willing to pay between $1-$5 for it? (I would absolutely provide a money back guarantee. If you don’t get anything from it, you don’t have to pay for it, period.) And if you couldn’t afford the $1-$5 amount because of circumstances, you could message me and we could work something out.
- If I were to start to work on this, what have I not already answered in this blog would you want to know? Or what topics have I merely skimmed over that you would want a deeper perspective on?
To clarify, this won’t be a book about getting your ex back. This will be a book about how to heal yourself after a breakup. If your ex comes back as a result of that (which usually happens, more often than not), GREAT. But that will not be the intention behind the book.
Why an eBook and not a real book?
I like the idea that this conversation is between me and you; not between me, you, the publisher, the editor, and book critics. I used to dream (since I was a kid, actually) about having a book in print (and maybe someday that’ll still happen), but this book is meant to help you, and that means I’d want it in your hands as fast as possible. So no waiting for shipping or driving to a book store. Literally, I want you just to be able to click “download.”
Also, I can think of two times that eBooks really helped me in the past: once was when I was going through the breakup with C and he was beginning to maybe/sort of/starting to come back and I didn’t know what the EFF to do, and I didn’t want to screw it up. I read an eBook (it was $11, I think) from one of those breakup sites (don’t kid around — I know you’ve been on them too) and actually, some of the author’s advice really helped me and it was WAY worth the $11.
The other time is when I was having a lot of trouble getting V to gain weight when I was still exclusively breastfeeding her. I ended up on a website dedicated to increasing your supply using a breast pump and I bought it ($19, I think). And again, it was absolutely well worth it and I’ve referred back to it during my journey with her and recommended it to friends.
So that being said, I need your help. Tell me if this is something you’d actually read (or would have read when you were suffering), and tell me what you’d want me to delve deeper into.
I hope you all had amazing holidays + a bright new year. Here’s a pic of my little munchkin who takes up all of my time!