Let me back up. I was having breakfast with a dear friend this morning who has known me a long, long time. She knows all about this blog and about all of you, of course. We were talking about our lives, relationships, careers and the future. And suddenly, I just said out loud what I’ve … Continue reading
Today is October 15th. Five years ago, I came home from work, and as C trimmed his toenails (true story), I said I still didn’t feel like things were okay between us, and he agreed. I never imagined what he’d finally work up to say just twenty minutes later. “I think I need to be … Continue reading
When C and I first dated over ten years ago, we joked about getting married and one day having a baby girl named Violet. That was all innocent flirting then, but now all of it has actually come to pass. Except that the baby is gone, and I have a toddler instead! Where did the … Continue reading
I started this blog almost five years ago. I was sitting at a Starbucks near my boyfriend’s (C, who would later leave me, and come back, and marry me) house, racking my brain about why I’d been so much happier in Japan. And when I looked back, it was all of the little things that … Continue reading
I remember promising myself that if I ever got C back, I would write about how I did it. I remember all those late nights full of pain, and I wanted to help someone else who was googling “how to get your ex back” in the middle of the night. Not so long ago, I … Continue reading
Colic. You never think your baby will have it. Nowhere in the fantasies about holding a sweet bundle of joy do you ever imagine that your bundle will cry with little break for three straight months. We brought V home on the fifth day of her life and sailed through the next couple of weeks … Continue reading
Our little girl Violet was lifted into the world three weeks ago yesterday, on July 22nd, 2016. I say “lifted” because she was a c-section birth. A friend told me the story of her daughter’s c-section by sharing that the nurse had said, “Some babies need to be lifted into this world rather than … Continue reading
Sounds like a vacation package, right? Nope. It’s the time left until our baby is born. (EEK!) A lot has happened since I blogged about being in the third trimester. We found out some potentially alarming news about six weeks ago that our baby wasn’t growing as she should, and that she may have something called … Continue reading
![Small Life, Slow Life: Why is Letting Go So Freaking Hard?! [Tips, tricks, quotes + a story.]](https://smalllifeslowlife.files.wordpress.com/2016/05/large.jpg?w=160&h=120&crop=1 "Small Life, Slow Life: Why is Letting Go So Freaking Hard?! [Tips, tricks, quotes + a story.]")
I had to forgive someone recently. Let’s just call a spade to spade: man, it’s shitty to have to do it. And I knew I had to do it, because thoughts of this person were consuming my mind. I couldn’t sleep. And no matter how well things were going on any particular day, my conversations … Continue reading
I love the above quote because it is true. It’s all the advice I read when I was struggling, and in the end, it was the only thing that worked. Trying to manifest things back failed. Making a love altar in the northeast corner of my apartment failed. Even crying for weeks in a therapist’s office … Continue reading
