I love the above quote because it is true. It’s all the advice I read when I was struggling, and in the end, it was the only thing that worked. Trying to manifest things back failed. Making a love altar in the northeast corner of my apartment failed. Even crying for weeks in a therapist’s office and retelling the story failed. Nothing worked until, on the night of my birthday, I sat up straight and said, “I can’t do this anymore. I have to let go; I have to move on.” After that, and only after that, did the other stuff begin to work.
You have to make the decision that you’re going to live through it.
Even if something has happened and you hate that it’s happened, acceptance is a non-negotiable part of the process. From acceptance, you can kick your way back to the surface. But you can’t paddle through the murky depths of what’s happened if you’re in denial, or you think it’s a mistake, or you think it’ll change if you just hang on.
I saw this image on Pinterest last night and thought about sharing it with you guys, and then I got an email in my inbox this morning with several links on grief.
“Got it,” I thought, “I’m supposed to go say hi to them.” 🙂
Here’s a great link on the 3 Kinds of Grief Nobody Talks About. This is a good one for those going through a breakup because it can often feel like someone has died, when in reality, the person you’ve loved for so long has just changed drastically.
And here’s another one on How Love Helps the Brain Recover from Grief. (It so does! This is why I tell you guys to go out and date people even when you don’t want to!)
What else is going on? Well, we’re in the third trimester over here, with less than 10 weeks to go before baby V comes and less than 8 weeks left of work. (WHAT?!) It’s freaky. On one hand, pregnancy feels as though it lasts forever. On the other, it zooms by in an instant. Most days, it hasn’t even hit me; I just think that, you know, this is my new reality: I’m just pregnant. It doesn’t usually sink in that there’s a baby at the end of this journey! Other days I look in the nursery and I am like, “Holy SHIT, a baby is gonna be here soon.”
I’ve been good the last few weeks at savoring time by myself, sleeping in when I have the opportunity (knowing that’ll be soon gone), talking over my fears with C, throwing myself into work and seeing friends as much as I can. Freedom is one of my core values, so I am expressing it as much as I can, knowing that it’ll look really different soon. I’m also realistic with myself and I know that freedom will be back one day (and then I’ll probably miss the long days I got to spend with my little nugget).
The other thing that happened recently that’s amazing is that I got to goal coach some of lululemon’s partners in this incredible house in the Hollywood Hills.
“Wait a second,” you’re saying. “You never mentioned that you’re a goal coach?!”
Haha, yeah. I love goal-setting and always have. In my early twenties, I would hand-write my weekly and monthly goals and tape them above my bed. There was a strange magic to writing it down and I was captivated by watching goals materialize. Much later on, when I heard that all lululemon employees receive goal coaching as part of their on-boarding, it’s what made me want to apply to the company. Fast-forward almost four years (I can’t believe June 22nd is my fourth anniversary with the company!), and I’ve been goal coaching employees, and now, non-employees, using their system for a couple of years now! Recently, I’ve gotten to do it a LOT. I love it…it totally lights me up inside!
But this was the biggest opportunity I’ve had by far, and my gosh, it was just incredible! I loved connecting with these amazing human beings! Photos below.
That’s what’s been going on around here!
I’ve been interacting with some of you in the comments recently. Please know that even though I’m not updating weekly, that I still read every single comment and think of you all the time. True, I’m still not answering (most) comments about break-ups and exes. Please know I’m not doing that to be mean. I just need to stick by the commitment I made to interact with you on a different level. It doesn’t mean I don’t care. ❤ I care a lot!
The next post you see on here will probably be a baby announcement! (EEK!) Wish me luck!